Published in P.S. I Love You·Feb 10, 2022Your Guide to Knowing the Difference Between the Big Things and the Little Things in MarriageTogether, Tami and I work with lots of couples. The husbands and wives that we work with almost always trip over a certain communication stumbling block at some point. Invariably, he will say that she makes a big deal out of nothing or she will say that he does. The…Marriage6 min readMarriage6 min read
Mar 16, 2021How Your Feelings Will Get You Into Trouble If You Let ThemEveryone has heard the phrase, “Follow your heart.” This is certainly well-intended thinking that is based exclusively on feelings which can be very helpful and even very romantic. But without any context or qualifiers, this kind of thinking will get you into trouble much of the time! Furthermore, we all…Feelings4 min readFeelings4 min read
Aug 21, 2020The Conversations That all Married Couples Need To HaveThe Conversations That all Married Couples Need To Have For anyone who has been married for a short time, you already know that there are conversations the two of you should be having — but you’re not. We all avoid these conversations, but for varied reasons. Why do we do…Communication Skills8 min readCommunication Skills8 min read
Aug 21, 2020How You Could be Poisoning Your Marriage Without Even Knowing it!How You Could be Poisoning Your Marriage Without Even Knowing it! At some point, you will wrestle with negative thoughts about your spouse that won’t seem to have the potential to kill your marriage, but they do. Now, I’m not talking about axe-murderer kind of thoughts, which would ruin your…Marriage Counseling5 min readMarriage Counseling5 min read
Sep 14, 2019We All Have Issues, Yours Are Holding You BackImagine a marriage in which neither you nor your spouse has any real issues: there is nothing you need to work on individually or as a couple, there are none of those awkward “rough edges” in your marriage that remind you both about the tension just beneath the surface, and…Marriage4 min readMarriage4 min read
Published in P.S. I Love You·Aug 12, 2019Vulnerability, Laughter, and Shared InterestsCan seemingly good things cause tension between you and your spouse? Absolutely! Allow me to set the stage for you. I, Brad, have always loved music. Sometimes it feels as if well-written song lyrics, and the music that delivers them, help me to better understand things about myself. For example…Relationships5 min readRelationships5 min read
Apr 26, 2019Your Words Have More Power Than You Think!When was the last time that you were guilty of taking words (with all of their power and meaning) for granted? If most of us are honest with our answer to this question, we would probably answer either: “today,” “yesterday,” or “this week.” Why is this so? Let’s start this…Words Matter3 min readWords Matter3 min read
Mar 19, 2019Is Your Marriage Normal?At one time or another, most married couples will ask the question, “Is our marriage normal?” This is a difficult question to answer since it depends on your definition of normal. We would suggest that a better question to ask would be, “Is my marriage healthy?” So, what does healthy…Marriage2 min readMarriage2 min read
Published in P.S. I Love You·Jan 24, 2019Selfless Love, Thriving Marriage, and a Bunch of PillowsI thought about titling this article, The Marriage Lessons I Learned From 100 Pillows. Sound intriguing? Good, because it certainly is! Entering into marriage, each one of us has our own preferences, peculiarities, likes, and dislikes. This means that those characteristics of yours and those of your spouse will most…Marriage3 min readMarriage3 min read
Published in P.S. I Love You·Aug 24, 2018There is More Power in a Marriage Vow Than You Realize — PART 2What you and I choose to believe about marriage is wrapped up in how we view The Vow. When I say, “The Vow,” I am referring to the holy (set apart for a purpose) and sacred (connected to God) commitment that was made (or will be made) on your wedding…Marriage4 min readMarriage4 min read
